You have a meeting and you’re worried about having to find interesting topics for conversation. Don’t lock yourself in stress and rely on safe topics of conversation, that is to say safe values which will allow you to relax and above all to have something to say.
Compliment her appearance
Yes, it’s quite stupid but it’s always nice, especially since on a first date a lot of effort is put into making yourself look good. It is therefore the least polite to compliment your appearance. Don’t be too engaging with a look full of desire, complimenting the other person is a form of politeness and not a declaration of love or anything else. Compliments should arrive as soon as you meet them.
Books, TV and music
The “what have you watched, read, seen or listened to at the moment?” » works because it does not require forcing the other to be in an intimate conversation, but in an easy exchange that will allow you to bounce back easily. Don’t ask the classic and blunt “What do you do for a living?” » Because especially if the other person hates their job or simply doesn’t have one, you could remind them of their own failures and you’re not there for that. Conversations based on culture also allow you to discover your own tastes and why not to discover things!
Talk about hobbies
If your date likes the pool or ice skating or even scuba diving, these things will be valuable to know if you want to please him the next time you meet. Be careful, you should phrase these questions in the least stilted way possible, avoid:
What do you do on your weekends in general?
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What are your hobbies?
The answers will allow more breadth because not everyone has hobbies or some of them may seem ridiculous when they are simply pleasant habits like preparing chocolate cream on Sunday afternoon , the one his mother made when we were kids. Finally… you understand me!
Talk about family
A simple conversation is to ask questions about his or her family, if he or she has brothers and sisters for example. From this can arise other conversations on this subject, namely, where the person grew up, finding out more about their family background. This will allow you to discern if there are any possibilities of compatibility with yours. Finally… Don’t ask him too many questions either, it’s not a question of giving him a psychoanalysis!
Work
Once you have discussed these first topics of conversation and digressed a little on related subjects, you can finally ask him or her the question about his or her work or how he or she makes a living. Talking about this subject as late as possible in a meeting ensures that you don’t appear obsessed with money or simply superficial. Don’t wait too long on this question and divert it to a “What would you have liked to do?” “. If his job is food, the conversation, if it lasts too long, could turn into depression. You will then see that the more relaxing subjects will come up very quickly and you will be able to know if he or she would have preferred to be a mountain guide or teach salt dough to children. You will then be able to say more about yourself too.
Stress is often present during a first meeting and not knowing what we are going to talk about is a blocking factor, whereas when we think carefully, we always have something to say.
