A marriage is meant to last forever, but we all know that life doesn’t always turn out the way you expect. Things change and so do we; That doesn’t mean you have to give up on love. Getting a divorce is an incredibly traumatic and exhausting process. But once you’re through it, when is the right time to start dating again?
Well the answer is… there isn’t one. Sorry, but only you know when you’re ready to get back into the dating game. The most important thing to remember is not to rush into anything. You’re unlikely to be looking for another wedding this soon, so now is the time to relax and enjoy your own! But there are a few steps to take when you’re ready to start online dating after divorce:
What are your hobbies?
We’re all guilty of the occasional FIB, but your online dating profile should be a true representation of you. Otherwise, what’s the point? So writing in your profile that you like white water rafting just to impress a potential date will only end in disaster! If you prefer long walks on the beach and cooking at home, say so, there is likely to be a similar person out there who you can share your interests with. And if you’re struggling to write your online profile, it’s never too late to find a (real) new hobby.
In a relationship, things can sometimes cause us to pursue our interests. Maybe you had a passion, but your other half wasn’t interested? If you have, now is the perfect time to reignite your interest in an old hobby. You may even meet someone! Otherwise, it will give you the chance to be the person you always wanted to be – and create an honest online dating profile.
Make time for friends and family
While it’s great to get out there and meet new people, be sure to take your friends and family along for the ride. You’re moving forward with your life, but that doesn’t mean you have to leave the people you care about behind. Make sure you don’t focus all your efforts on finding a new partner; make time for your friends and family. Caring for others is an attractive trait to have. But it’s okay to be selfish sometimes too.
Don’t forget to find time for yourself
In a long relationship, it’s easy to get wrapped up in other people’s lives and forget to find time for yourself. Go to the gym, exercise class, anything! When you’re married, it can be tempting to let yourself go a little. Everyone does it! But now you’re single, it’s important to start taking care of yourself. The healthier you feel, the more confident and positive you will be about the future. And happiness and confidence will make you more attractive for when you find your perfect date!
But above all remember not to put pressure on yourself to find the ideal partner online. Dating after a divorce doesn’t have to be an exhausting chore, you’re free now, so relax and have a good time!
I invite you to discover DivorceDating, which I recently presented to you, an app dedicated to divorced parents!
