How much time do you spend getting ready for a night out? To a suggestion, I would say that if you are a woman you can probably spend 1 hour at least, hair, makeup etc. and if you’re a man, you can be showered, shaved and out the door within 20 minutes (unless, of course, you’re a metro-sexual in which case you probably take longer than a woman!) .
Now let me ask you how much time you would spend (or have spent) writing a profile for an online dating site? Less than 5 minutes, possibly 10 minutes maximum?
When you consider that you have wasted enough time writing your ad to impress someone and stand out from the rest of the online dating scene, don’t you think that more time and effort should be put into writing an online profile?
If you are a fan of online dating sites like Meetic Or Adopt a Guy, I am sure you will agree with me that when you are looking for a partner online you will firstly look at all the profiles with photos and secondly you will look at the profiles where people have taken the time to write something about themselves. So, if you have no photo or an incomplete and inaccurate profile, don’t be surprised if your inbox isn’t filled to the brim with messages!
I’m going to share with you some tips to help you write a eye-catching profile and an attractive ad. Once you have read them take the time to think about what you are going to write and scribble down a few quick notes before hitting the keyboard.
1. Call a friend
If you don’t like writing about yourself or think you’re going to get writer’s block it’s a good idea to enlist the help of a friend; the kind of friend who always tells you “I don’t understand why you’re still single, that you’re such a catch”. Ask your friend about your star qualities and he or she will come up with 1,000001 million positive things about you that you never thought or dared to say about yourself.
2. Strike a pose!
The most effective way to get noticed online is to include a photo. Choose a clear photo that shows you at your best and preferably smiling – it makes for much better viewing!
And if you haven’t read it yet I invite you to take a look at my article on how to make an attractive profile photo for a dating site.
3. Choose a fun nickname!
This is the name that you will only be known by members on the dating site. I advise you to use a name different from your real name to maintain anonymity. Try and choose a name that is fun and reflects your personality, i.e. Sporty Sam or Disco Queen. Do not use a name that is sexually provocative or offensive.
4. Capture the attention of others!
Make your profile really stand out so that anyone reading it will think “Wow, I need to get to know this person!” »
The sites of online dating make it easy for you when you fill out your profile by providing drop-down menus for basic questions such as your appearance, lifestyle, hobbies, but you will also have more space to write something about yourself. Use this space wisely to provide a more detailed description of your personality, interests and what you are looking for. The key is to be confident and speak positively about yourself without coming across bigheaded.
5. Don’t leave a blank space
If you feel you have yourself covered while answering profile questions – please don’t leave extra space blank or write “ask me”, “tell you later” or “I don’t know what to say “. Members will see your profile and think that you are not serious about dating or that if you don’t bother to put some effort into writing a profile you will have the same approach in a relationship – effortlessly! Rather, expand on the information already provided, for example, if you said you like traveling talk about some of the places you have already visited.
6. Ask questions
If there is a particular place you visited and fell in love with, ask someone who has been there to get in touch with you so you can reminisce together. Asking a question in your profile makes it easy for other members to respond to.
7. Be honest
Do not lie about interests; you will find get out! For example, don’t say you like long walks in the countryside if you really want to dance the night away at nightclubs every weekend. You attract the wrong person and waste both of your time.
As with any other type of dating, it is always best to be honest from the start so answer any questions honestly and it will be much easier to find your perfect match!
8. Show your funny side and humor
I think if you can make someone laugh or someone who makes you laugh, you’re on your way to a good relationship. Show people that you have a sense of humor, such as talking about a scene from one of your all-time favorite comedies, and you may strike a chord with another person who found the same thing just as funny as you.
9. Sell a little dream…
Write about your ambitions and dreams. If your dream is to travel the world but you haven’t quite got round to it there may be someone out there who would like to share that experience with you. If you were lucky enough to live your dream, share your story with other members.
10. Don’t talk about your ex(es)..
OK, so you may have just gotten out of a relationship and feeling sad and lonely, but don’t write about it. It will put a lot of people off and you will encounter a desperate person, who is not an attractive character. Make dating a new start for you online and promise not to dwell on past relationships.
11. Be clear about your expectations!
What are your expectations of joining a online dating site ? Tell people the kind of relationship you hope to find but don’t say you’re looking for marriage if you really want it for a casual fling and vice versa. Once again, you will both be wasting your time.
12. Write a chapter, not a book..
By that I mean, don’t tell your entire life story in your profile. I encourage you to provide as much information as possible about yourself but use short bursts of information, in paragraphs, rather than writing a long essay so whoever is reading it is intrigued to find out more about YOU.
13. Be assertive and confident!
Finally, do not include any personal information in your profile, for example your email address, residential address, telephone number or work address. A reputable dating site will remove all personal information before appearing directly on the site; This is to ensure that they provide you with a safe online dating environment.
Once you have completed your profile, read it or ask a trusted friend to read through it and ask, would you respond to this person? If so, it’s all systems OK. If not, look at areas where it can be improved until you have created that winning profile. It may take longer than 5 or 10 minutes, but the results that will appear in your inbox will be worth it!
