Dating, for finding love, is at the top of the list for everyone and everyone who is not coupled. And the difficulty in finding it is what causes most people to end up here Now, I’m writing this from two different angles. Although I have had a lot of personal experience in the dating arena, I have also helped hundreds of people go through the process of finding love.
If you are someone who married early enough, or who hit the plans lottery in that you never had trouble finding a partner, you are very lucky, and not in this category ! This is for the rest of us, who have had to understand our love patterns and work our butts off to change that pattern, all while going through the (sometimes futile) exercise of dating!
Now, as mentioned, the psychological element of our plans—meaning the subconscious reasons why we are attracted to those we are attracted to—cannot be ignored or overlooked. As I talk about in my book, not all good ones are taken, we all have patterns of falling in love that were embedded in us by the age of thirteen. They come from our connections to our mothers and fathers, and their connection to each other. And we have all these models. It just depends on what they are and whether they make it easy for us to associate, or sabotage connections. These spiritual principles must therefore be used in conjunction with the figure of these deeper blocks.
To begin, let’s just say: encounter is hard work whether it is spiritual encounter or not for that matter. It can often feel like a second job if you put all the energy into it. And it can often be very discouraging. This is a universal fact! So, here’s where I tell you that believing in something bigger than yourself—meaning, finding your spirituality—will be of the utmost importance. It is especially helpful when it comes to matters of the heart, and keeping the momentum and hope that you need to find love.
Follow a few of these practices below and it will make this pursuit a little more palatable (or dare we say enjoyable?!):
1: Believe in the Law of Attraction.
It is the belief that what we think, focus our attention on, and truly feel are all catalysts for what we have (or don’t have) in our lives. In short, as my guru in this area says, “we attract what we believe, and we attract what we are.” So what does this mean for you and your online dating? Well, if you’re constantly focused on how difficult dating is, how it never worked out in the past, how sad you are that you’re alone, or how you really feel about yourself, it is that you are inadequate and unworthy of love, then what you will get is yet another disappointment, and you will be left feeling exactly what you once felt: unworthy. Although we don’t have control over anyone else, we do have control over this, and changing the way you think and feel—and putting that energy out into the world—really changes your experience of it. , it’s a bit of a kind ofspiritual awakening.
2: Believe in Karma.
This is also called the Law of Cause and Effect. Simply put, it is a belief that the energy you put in will come back to you. So, in essence, you are constantly creating the experience that you encounter in the world. This happens in conjunction with the Law of Attraction. So if we change the way we think and feel, then we will put different energy into the world. And in turn, we will start to have a different result. But it’s not something you can change just once. You must be diligent about checking in with yourself about what you are thinking and feeling all the time. There spirituality is appropriate with karma. Think positive, and everything will be positive, whether you have a spiritual guide by your side or not!
3: Confidence in timing.
In our universe, there is an unfolding of life, and things actually happen the way they should — not how we think they should! Most people can’t recognize it because when things don’t go their way, they can’t see beyond the moment. It’s hard to understand that things happen for a reason. What does this mean for internet dating or real life dating? It’s a knowledge that you take with you that with every relationship that didn’t last, there is something to learn, and you have been taken one step closer to finding the best love for you. And even if you have done all your work—changed your thoughts, found your guide, released hidden feelings, become more self-aware—you may still have to wait for the opportunity for love, in short, to turn a corner in the spirituality. He’ll come when he’s supposed to, not a minute early. The difference is that when it comes to hitting, you’ll finally be able to receive it in a whole new way.
4: Accept that life is not fair.
We are all on this earth to learn something, and we are not all learning the same lessons. Too many people have “poor me” syndrome, but it really is a waste of time and energy. No one can go through this human experience without some difficulty. And we all need to learn the lessons we need to learn – to grow where we need to grow. For those of you who are having difficulty finding love and spiritual encounters, herein lies your lesson. And there are reasons for this to happen. So change your mindset, and instead of hating it so much, see it as your opportunity to grow, change and prosper!
5: Live in the moment.
What this means is being aware of what is happening in the present, instead of getting stuck in the past or longing for the future. But do not get me wrong. Memories from your past are important; they shaped you. And having goals for the future is also important. The problem is, if you only live on memories, or what will one day be, you are really missing out on your life now!
To put it in a dating perspective: too many people are in their own way here. They are stuck in what they had in the past, or the fact that they haven’t had love yet. And some are stuck in the future, and they’re not moving forward in their lives because they’re waiting to meet someone first. You must live today as if you have everything you want. Stay in the moment, feel your life, and do whatever you want to do right now. And as a byproduct of setting the above practices in motion, you will attract everything you desire into your life (Yes, I’m talking about love).
Thanks to Doc Quantum for Spiritual.guide for his help in writing this article.
