Things have flowed under the bridge since your breakup but you miss him/her and you can’t move on. Maybe your ex really is the woman/man of your life and you want to give your relationship another chance. If the reasons why you want to see your ex again are positive, why not give it a try? Whether after 1 year, 10 years or 3 months, meeting your ex again is a delicate step that can easily turn into a fiasco without good preparation.
Do you have good reasons to do so?
Before you get started, you must first determine the reasons why you want to see your ex again. Is it because you want to win him/her back? To simply make peace? Or for revenge? The motivations may be different. If it’s a question of revenge, if you want to see your ex again to hurt him, break up his relationship or reproach him, let it go straight away. This will not bring you relief and will bring you absolutely nothing positive. If, on the contrary, you think you have gained enough perspective on your past relationship, if you think you are sufficiently stable, fulfilled and confident to see your ex again in a positive way, then there is no reason not to not try.
Back in touch
To can meet your ex again, unless you come across him/her by chance and start the discussion naturally, you will have to make an initial contact. The safest and most common way to reconnect with your ex is the famous SMS. But be careful, don’t do it on a whim. Think carefully about what you are going to say to him. A friendly, sympathetic or even funny SMS but also a little distant will arouse their curiosity without rushing them. If you are comfortable speaking and sure not to make a mistake, you can also choose to call them directly to check on them and initiate contact.
Pay attention to your attitude
Before the first meeting, prepare yourself to put all the chances on your side. The important thing is to remain detached and not show him that you are coming to win him/her back. Work on your self-confidence and adopt a casual attitude. The saying “follow me I run away from you, run away from me I follow you” applies more than ever in the context of a first date with your ex. You will have to remain distant, arouse his interest and show that you are happy and fulfilled without putting any pressure on him.
Choose a neutral but casual meeting place where you will both be comfortable. It is also very important to present yourself in your best light. Make yourself look good and be on top of your game to seduce him/her.
During the appointment
During the appointment, avoid talking about the past and things that are annoying. If, however, he/she brings the subject to the table, do not hesitate to apologize for your past mistakes and show him/her that you have evolved. Don’t talk about your future plans with him/her either, but rather just discuss your new respective lives, what you were able to accomplish during your separation, while leaving an element of mystery to arouse his/her curiosity. Be friendly, caring but always a little distant. Then let time do things. Don’t hope to win back your ex in a single date but let him/her come back to you gradually and gently, follow for example these 7 techniques to bring him back.
