Internet dating has literally exploded in recent years. But what about the physical meeting that follows the online meeting? Note that a study revealed that only 18% of meetings made via the Tinder website last after the first date. Which means that bodily seduction is still as important as ever.
An American university tested the recognition of flirting. Out of 104 people who met for the first time, only 28% can identify whether the partner was in the game of seduction. The incomprehension and ignorance of the first steps in love still remain a mystery for 72% of the people in this life-size test.
So, if you think that the other person will understand if you want to deepen the meeting, there will be little chance that he or she will understand.
Meeting in a nightclub, the technical instructions
A psychologist investigated women’s seduction preferences. Don’t think that “I can buy you a drink” hits the mark every time, far from it… Besides, if you read this article on this blog about dating, I doubt that this is your method of seduction.
So, no, women in general prefer innocent, non-committal lyrics commenting on events, like “what do you think of this song?” » The conversation will be more likely to work. The psychologist continues by indicating that as soon as the person responds with “I”, they are ready to truly open a conversion.
How do I approach a girl I like?
Yes it can work if the person is close to me, but what if they are on the other side of the room?
Don’t panic, the silent weapon in the deafening noise of the boxîyou and which is the first weapon in an attempt at seduction is: eye contact. According to a scientific study, the gaze is so powerful that even between friends, it is difficult to hold a gaze without it making us feel uncomfortable. For what ? Because a look lasting more than 2 seconds is a strong signal of desire!
So if you manage to hold a gaze for more than a second interspersed with reflex turns of the face, you’re off to a good start. However, be careful not to be too insistent, otherwise you could intimidate the chosen one.
Then you have to move towards the other
Ok, I caught his eye and I’m getting closer, but then?
Be sure to keep a space between you and the other person to avoid intruding too much into their privacy, the ideal distance is around 1 meter 20, this is what we call the social zone. Beyond this limit, you get closer to the intimate zone which is a place that is embarrassing for others if they don’t know you. If the person rubs their elbow or looks away, the limit has been crossed.
Is eye contact enough to be sure?
Start a conversation, remember to be pleasant
No, obviously, know that you will need to speak between 4 and 10 minutes to know the intentions of the person opposite, before this defined time, do not think that you have won their interest. For a woman, being looked at can also reassure her seductive capital and may very well be enough for her. Gestures then come into play but focus instead on the movement of the legs, if the movements are ample and flexible, it is a good sign, but if on the contrary the legs cross or fold, it is a signal strong with repulsion.
Can I do buddy-buddy to reassure her?
Smiling when you want to seduce is obviously the least you can do, but avoid any physical contact.
What can I talk to him about?
It is very difficult to know what topics to discuss, however one thing is certain, avoid all controversial conversations and criticism towards others, speak positive and calm.
How do you know if he really likes you?
Everything is fine, we talk but how can I finish and be sure that he likes me?
Ask him for his phone number or arrange to meet him for a drink, you’ll be sure, but if you’ve made it this far… There’s a very good chance that someone will say yes.
