The soul mate… Many people are looking for their other half who perfectly matches this idea. If you think that a soul mate exists, know that you are not alone, more than 90% of young adults believe in this concept. Furthermore, 88% think that it was destiny that determined that there was only one person who met these requirements and that it was destiny that would decide whether or not you were going to meet them.
It may seem incredible, but romantic ideals are still tenacious when you are young. So much so that some people who are more romantic than others have set themselves the goal of meeting their soul mate.
The soul mate, the certainty of perfection
Believing in a soul mate is also the certainty that the perfect person exists and that we ourselves are perfect for someone in this world. Life would then be easier to live. This belief, however, has led people to miss out on serious encounters that could have made them happy. This alchemy was missing at the beginning, this obviousness that we think we feel when we meet our soul mate and that was enough to close the relationship.
Soul mate and psychology
Some psychologists have determined that people fall into 2 groups when it comes to the question of a soul mate and a successful relationship. One group thinks that their love searches should focus on finding the perfect person while the other group focuses on finding a lasting and consistent relationship.
The soul mate group believes that finding your soul mate allows you to overcome life’s difficulties. And if it’s not easier, he won’t hesitate to let go of his illusions by convincing himself that he wasn’t the right person.
The second group is more pragmatic and believes that there is no princess or prince charming and that the couple is a two-person project fraught with pitfalls.
Love with a capital A or calm and lasting affection
Knowing this can make you feel trapped. On the one hand, the fantasy of a mapped out destiny, of a great story, and on the other, a feeling of spending one’s life making compromises. It’s true that you can feel a little in between or completely clueless about it.
Soul mate and past life
We are going to be mystical for a few moments and talk about soul mates and past lives. For people who believe in it, they would have known their love in a previous life and their destiny would be to continue it in their current life. But that’s not quite it for aficionados of esotericism.
Our soul mate would be a person that we would have known in another life of course but who would give us a quick sign in this life. Besides, many of you who read me would have met your soul mate without knowing it.
This would manifest itself to you within a short period of your life and would disappear just as quickly. She could very well be a friend you met during the holidays, a person you liked very quickly, and who would have left without a feeling of sadness or even love. This simply symbolizes the closure of the relationship to each start on a new path and meet the new person who will change your life.
So how do I know who is the person who suits me best?
Here is a list of questions that might help you. Of course, if the majority of answers are affirmative, then you are on the right path. But if there are still areas for improvement, the work does not necessarily have to be done by the other… but by you.
Here are the questions
- When you are with the person, do you feel at home?
- Do you think it was destiny that made you meet?
- Does the other person guess very quickly what you are going to say in your conversations?
- Do you share a common mission or cause in life?
- When you are together, does the world seem better?
- Is your mood better when you are together?
- When you look at the other, do you feel the other as another part of you?
- Does being together make you more optimistic when you think about the future?
- Do connections become more and more numerous over time? (Thinking of the other and receiving their call, for example.)
To tell you the truth, I believe in a soul mate, but not in a ready-made soul mate. May love be built day by day and one fine morning, you finally look at the other as obvious, thinking of all the distance you have traveled together without ever having given up believing in your common destiny.
