When we have found THE phone number, we have 2 unique choices, either call or send an SMS. For the more adventurous, the call has the gift of knowing if you really like the other person but when in doubt the vast majority prefer to send text messages. SMS has the advantage of not letting emotions take over the dialogue and of being able to think about sending messages.
If you are in total confusion and don’t know what to send, here is an article that should give you some ideas. Take inspiration from them but adapt them to your way of seeing things so that, if you have exhausted all the suggestions, you do not shock the person in front by a total change in the type of message.
The first SMS
The first flirting text messages are the most delicate, depending on the character of the person receiving, you will have to try to adapt by avoiding ready-made or uninspired messages like “Hello, how are you?” » which is an entry into contact as original as a blade of grass in the middle of a football stadium.
It will therefore be preferable to send an SMS which will be inspired by the place of your first meeting, or the place where you exchanged your numbers, so that there is a unique common point. Don’t forget humor which will lighten the atmosphere.
As you are not yet in a physical relationship, you are at the sensations stage, do not hesitate to share them in your messages.
Example if you got the number in a place where there was music, don’t hesitate to say it, and if this music was bad, play with it in the content of the SMS.
When you gave me this number, the song was the little foam man, I didn’t think that this song would bring back such a lovely memory… How are you?
The ellipsis is an extremely romantic weapon, the little foam man, the quirky and humorous aspect and the “pretty souvenir” ending a sensation.
You can also try a humorous but sensitive text message.
I have to admit that I wrote 25 different messages before sending you this one, how do you like it?
If the person answers “poor” or “can do better” do not play their game, it is true that this approach may seem very average but if you answer this:
You are right but I found that “I would like to see you again very soon” was a bit direct…
You will turn the situation to your advantage. It’s not said that it works, but if we have to take something away from this example, it’s surprise.
You have to put some wit into your messages and always try to surprise the person you are courting.
The point is to have responses to the SMS, to establish a relationship that provokes reactions. Depending on the age of the people the type of message will differ, if you are a man, forget poetry, but be poetic, this does not mean writing verses or copying love messages from the depths of a forum of love depressives. You need YOU in the messages. Don’t have Christian syndrome in Cyrano de Bergerac.
Ban SMS language
The “lol”, the “lmao” is good for commenting on yet another Facebook image from an unusual site, not for approaching a person you like. SMS language allows you to communicate quickly but also describes a caricature of emotions… Placing “lol” in a flirting text makes the person who receives the message imagine that you are screwing your teeth in front of your phone… Not very glamorous in terms of seduction. In a pinch, prefer smileys.
The rest is you who invents it
Don’t be in a hurry to find the message that will hit the mark and make you irresistible, adapt according to the answers, always keeping flirting in mind but don’t make it the major player in your dialogue, you risk pass by the other in wanting to play the smartest. Strike poses and also send basic messages like: “Was your day going well?” »
When flirting by SMS, you should not wait for a declaration of love in return or a sign of total openness, the goal is to make the other person want to talk to you, not to make them feel trapped by your multiple attempts to receive a confession from him.
Some will tell you to play the total humor card, it is true that making people laugh is absolutely necessary in seduction but the risk of coming across as a laughing clown is slim, especially if you are not a top model. And in principle, when you are given a number it is not so that you do a one man show sponsored by Orange, SFR or Bouygues Telecom.
Inspired, cool and funny these are the 3 qualities that your messages must have and you know, if you really like the person one
I love Champomy and you?
will pass cream.
Relax and send your message.
